-Music played during the cocktail hour should be both celebratory and mellow. Since this period marks the beginning of the party, you’ll want the tunes to be upbeat; at the same time, the music should be on the quieter side so that people can chat without fighting the noise.

-Music played during dinner should be background music. Usually, it takes the form of mellow jazz, classical, or light pop played at a relatively low volume so that people can converse easily as they eat. Most couples and caterers prefer not to have dance music played during the meal service in order to keep everything running smoothly and on schedule.

-Try to select a range of musical genres (from standards to current party hits) to be played during the reception so that all of your guests will enjoy themselves.

-Ask if the bandleader/disc jockey will act as emcee for the evening, announcing important events – such as toasts, the cake-cutting ceremony, and the opening of the dessert bar, to name a few — in order to ensure the smooth flow of your party.

-If you and your groom want to be especially graceful when taking your turn on the dance floor, sign up for dancing lessons. Not only will you get to spend some fun evenings together, you’ll feel more confident in the spotlight on your wedding day. Most couples take ballroom dancing, but salsa and swing are options as well. Many studios offer classes geared specifically to engaged couples.

-Make sure that you know where the band/disc jockey, speakers, and dance floor will be set up before figuring out table assignments; this way you can seat the younger crowd in the middle of the action and situate others where they may be more comfortable.